If we want to treat people mindful, to face the deeper feelings of eachother, we first need to respect ourselves.
How important is the opinion of others to you to make decisions?
What do I want to have for breakfast, will I take the bus or rather my bicycle, will I take rest or go out tonight, do I want to move to another city, study or work, keep the relationship or end it? The little daily decisions I make instinctively and spontaneously, for the very big ‘lifedecisions’ I prefere to talk to my closest people. The opinion of those who know me well is important. They sometimes know better what is good for me.
What would you tell your-past-self with all the experiences you have today?
I would tell myself ‘don’t worry’ because there is no use for. Either something goes well or not. I can influence my life in many ways but not by worrying. It just hurts twice if I think of everything that might turnout bad. All the worries make mountains higher and barriers bigger. Life is easier when you except errors and use them as lifelessons. Sometimes you need to fall to learn how to get up. Here comes the second point I wish I would have known a few yeas before: to fail in one point doesn’t mean a life-long-failure. If someone doesn’t like me doesn’t mean I am a bad person, same if I did something wrong. That means I don’t need to project the small weaknesses and mistakes to the whole.
Do you believe in love at first sight?
I believe in a special connection to only a few people we meet in our life. A certain feeling that comes up when you are with a person that makes you addicted to it, because you feel comfortable and happy. However, real love is build by trust and a deeper connection, which is build by time we spend together.
Is it hard for you to let things go?
With every new decision, every step I take, I leave something behind. A few years ago there was a lot of excitement in the view to the future. Excitement about the time after school, excitement about the next journey, excitement about the new city I will live in. Today I know my personal challenges of this kind of straight forward living. In times of change I am rarely with myself because I feel like I need to fit inside different communities, play various roles to get along and manage different groups and lifesituations. That is challenging and in this situations I remember die small world I used to live in, where I had to be only friend and family member. The people from that time are still the most important in my life and sometimes I would like to go back and live reunited with all of them. My biggest challenge is to let my loving people go without losing them. I would like to share one way with them and to the same time I know my way is the only one I want to go.
Do you think it is selfish to want to be happy?
“What would you wish for, if you would have one free wish in you life which becomes true?”, that is a question a friend ask me and my answer was, “I would wish for myself to be always content.” He told me, that most people’s respond to his question is selfish. I felt egoistic and super egocentric. However, I know with every wish I would come to myself in the end. If I imagine what would be the biggest pain for me, it is the suffering of the people I love. I also know it is easier to make other people happy than myself. To share my suffering and my grief with other people makes it easier for me. To see other people happy makes me also happy. I think the reason for all that is, we are only a piece, which is dependent from other pieces, and we are also individuals who need to take care of themselves. Everything we do is in the end egoistic and everything we do is our contributing part to the world and the wealth of others. If I pursue happiness, that might be egoistic but if happiness leads to the wealth of other living creatures this pursuit can be also the most altruistic contribution.
Is it hard for you to let things go?
With every new decision, every step I take, I leave something behind. A few years ago there was a lot of excitement in the view to the future. Excitement about the time after school, excitement about the next journey, excitement about the new city I will live in. Today I know my personal challenges of this kind of straight forward living. In times of change I am rarely with myself because I feel like I need to fit inside different communities, play various roles to get along and manage different groups and lifesituations. That is challenging and in this situations I remember die small world I used to live in, where I had to be only friend and family member. The people from that time are still the most important in my life and sometimes I would like to go back and live reunited with all of them. My biggest challenge is to let my loving people go without losing them. I would like to share one way with them and to the same time I know my way is the only one I want to go.
Do you think it is selfish to want to be happy?
“What would you wish for, if you would have one free wish in you life which become true?”, that is a question a friend ask me and my answer was, “I would wish for myself to be always content.” He told me, that most peoples respond to his question is selfish. I felt egoistic and super egocentric. However, I know with every wish I would come to myself in the end. If I imagine what would be the biggest pain for me, it is the suffer of the people I love. I also know it is easier to make other people happy than myself. To share my suffer and my grief with other people makes it easier for me. To see other people happy, makes me also happy. I think the reason for all that is, we are only a piece which is dependant from other pieces and we are also individuals who need to take care of themselves. Everything we do is in the end egoistic and everything we do is our contributing part to the world and the wealth of others. And if I pursue happiness, that might be egoistic but if happiness leads to the wealth of other living creatures this pursuit can be also the most altruistic contribution.