Families are complex systems of people who are deeply connected. Families might be an important place which gives their members strength and safety. Responsibility and the mix of different interests can be very complicated. For all of you who want to work on the communication within the family or just want to have a deep conversation, here are four questions to help you with that:
Is there something your parents don’t understand?
Nobody knows us longer than our parents. That doesn’t mean no one knows us better. The older we are the more influences us and we find our own way of living regarding opinions, habits and expectations. The deep connection – biological or emotional – can be safety and also responsibility and this feeling can vary from parents to there children. Sometimes it is hard to be comprehensively. Especially in the family is feels good to understand and support each other.
What are you grateful for?
Share your happiness about lifegifts you got from your parents, children, siblings. Hardly anything is more connecting than gratefulness. It is easy to see what is missing and what we are mad about but don’t forget to tell about enrichments and luck you gain from being a part of your family. Gratitude is always an enrichment!
What is Christmas for you?
Depending on other cultures and religions, Christmas stands for all days when families and loving people are gathering. Or maybe not. Someone would say it supposed to be a day of love and kindness. Someone else might say it is a social challenge. You can exchange your feelings and let the others know what are your wishes, memories and expectations for this day. Find out what is most important for you and your family.
What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you think about “home”?
Do you live all together as a family, did someone already moved out, or is there a special living concept – ‘home’ is not only connected to a place but especially to the people you live with. When we share our definition of home, we can find out much about needs, comfort zones and habits.